Having a best friend is one of the nicest joys in life. Especially, if your best friend is someone whom you have grown-up with, or even, your husband or wife.
The bond that best friends share, is awesome. A best friend, is someone you can share your immediate thoughts and experiences with; and of course, it can be a family member (like a mother or brother).
To be able to reach-out and be in-touch with someone, whimsically or on serious occasions, is an essential part of relationships.
What do you think?
It may tend to be a great feeling to relieve yourself of holding a grudge, by letting go of your pride and opening your heart to forgive a person, if you feel they wronged you, or did something else wrong.
By holding-on to a grudge, one may only be doing harm to him or herself. By letting-go of a grudge, one may become quite liberated. It's easy on the heart, and soothing to the spirit.
However -- What if, forgiveness or letting-go is not really warranted? What if, it is necessary to defend your beliefs and maintain an unforgiving-stance? What if, "turning-the-other-cheek" gets in the way of you maintaining your dignity?
On one hand, it may be liberating and spiritually uplifting to forgive and forget. And, on the other hand -- it may be more sensible and essential for one's maintenance of self-respect, to stand-firm in one's beliefs and don't be do quick to overlook the wrong-doing of others, if one's dignity and self-respect is involved.
Sometimes, it is wiser to use your head -- instead of your heart, when it comes to overlooking, something that should not be forgiven.
Animals seem to have it easy. Mother Nature pretty-much lays-out the ground rules for the relationships and boundaries (by instinct) of animals. They just know what to do. Survival is key, and though animals may have a spirit and bond with their kindred relations -- the dynamics of their relationships are probably more secure, than a lot of human beings. (Who does not agree?)
If you disagree, just check out an episode or two of "Jerry Springer" -- and you may see the light. (Just kidding.)
Why go to a club, to meet someone to date? Isn't it far more practical, to find relationship-potential individuals at work; regardless of where you are employed, unless, of coarse, if your place of employment has rules against dating coworkers?
The pluses of running-into the love-of-your-life at work --
* You don't have to explain what you do; he or she will have already gained insight into what's on your work agenda. And, he or she, may really have an understanding, if he or she does the same thing as you do.
* Being at work, you can see how the person deals with pressure. How they address issues and work/interact with people.
* Gone with the pretense -- By seeing someone on a daily-basis, it may be easier to see "the-real-deal", without the formalities of the dating-scene.
Your workplace may be a relationship-originator; where individuals, tend to naturally attract each other. Perhaps, work is where you met your partner. If so, would you care to share about that?
Regarding, the sympathetic support of others; perception and respect -- How are they related?
For one thing, having sympathy for another person is hard to do, if you don't respect them. The lack of respect, prompts apathy or contemptuous disdain, which is not conducive to the nature of sympathy.
It is hard to feel-for a person, who one believes is bad in nature, or who has slighted us. Perhaps, we need to be at "zero" or even with a person (aka -- someone who has not lost points with us) to be open to sympathizing with them in relationship to their feelings and opinions. That support system, may all depend upon our sweet perception of them. After-all -- It's hard to be sweet to someone, if they have been cold to us or did something that we perceive as, as not good. And it's so much easier to support who we believe to be "the good guy", which we pinpoint by our perception of his or her behaviour and character, by way of reputation and presentation.
What do you think, about perception and sympathetic support in relationships?
If you are in a positive and healthy relationship, that union may be a very precious thing, because having harmony, love, caring, understanding, is a very beautiful and desired thing. (For some; but, then -- why not for all?)
Do you ever wonder this: Why do people sometimes thrive in conflict and have a deep need to control and help another individual to be miserable?
And this question: Why do some people remain in negative and unhealthy relationships, to begin with? Are they not aware, that being in unhealthy relationships, is like being in a dead-end job that hinders growth, happiness and well-being?
Life and survival can be real challenging. And making the right choices for oneself, regarding a job or personal relationships, is not always easy, either. Sometimes, we stick-with what we think is working; because we may feel that we do not have any-other options. When in reality, what we think is working, is really unsuitable, dysfunctional and a bad choice for our positive future and well-being.
There are always other options, regarding work choices and personal relationships. It's all-about one's choice to "see-the-light" and to have the courage and resources to step in the right direction, to take action to healthier relationships.
What are your thoughts about being stuck in a relationship-rut, and taking the initiative to look at if the relationship has a future, or if it is so dysfunctional, that one would be much better-off to move-on and grow?
